Why a Writing Blog?

I often feel as if there’s time to live life OR write about it… not both.

But recently I’ve realized just how much writing has taken a back seat to other things in my life, and it has had a detrimental effect. It reminds me of a book I read long ago… Papa’s Daughter, by Thyra Ferre Bjorn. “Button”, had a passion for writing. That burning desire was all but smothered for a number of years, but it smoldered in her spirit and almost consumed her in its demand for fulfillment.

As many young moms have discovered, it’s hard to justify the time spent on writing when there are little ones to care for. That was my experience as our children began to fill our home. When our fourth child, Vicki, was born in 1988, our oldest was not yet six years old. Ian decided to make a way for me to get off by myself and do something just for me. Only a couple of hours once a week, but it was a wonderful oasis in time. I chose to go the church where he was pastor, and let myself in with his key. I would go to the nursery and sit down at the table and write for two hours. I had the baby with me, and the church was so cold we had to keep our coats on, but it was just the quiet and calm I needed. Until then, I didn’t know how much I missed writing. But life got in the way, and before many months had passed, I’d slid back into my non-writing life again.

“Button” was a young mom of two daughters when she stopped writing. No one knew why she slipped into a form of depression — an agitated state that led to insomnia and night flights, when she would take the car keys and drive endlessly. Nothing anyone did for her made any difference. Until one day she happened to mention to her doctor that she used to fancy herself a writer. He picked up on the unspoken message, and wrote her a “prescription” — to write a letter to him every day without fail. It wasn’t many weeks before she didn’t have to follow that prescription any more, because it had worked its magic and healing, and she had returned to her characteristic sunny self.

Writing is my passion… my burning desire. My husband says I live to write. That’s why it’s been so hard for me, these past five years when I haven’t been able to write the way I used to. I am an introvert, so I naturally find it hard to SAY how I feel. If I also cannot express myself in writing, that’s an indication that something is wrong. Very wrong.

That’s why I’ve started this new blog — my writing blog. At first, I may share a lot of stories or memories I wrote years ago and stored on my hard drive. But as the weeks pass, I hope I’ll be writing more and more new things, as I get back into the place where it’s more comfortable for me to do so.

Right now my life is crowded with a lot of fragmented things that need to be either culled out or sorted and filed in the right places. I’m looking forward to getting back to the Real Me again!

© Willena Flewelling


  1. I understand your predicament, Willena.
    I’ve been writing professionally for years, but it’s not the same as writing for myself. I find it quite fulfilling to write on my blog as I want and what I want, rather than having to write within the confines of professional contracts and deadlines.
    I’ll look forward to seeing you work, both old and new.
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    • Thanks, David. I learned a few years ago that even in my journal all those years, the type of writing I do is called “creative nonfiction” — i.e. writing what really happened, in story format. The first year I did NaNoWriMo, I found it wasn’t a huge step from creative nonfiction to a fictionalized account of what really happened. But I really want to branch out into “real” fiction — i.e. make up a story on the spot. I’m getting there….
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  2. Hi Willena,
    It’s really great to do what you love and follow your passion.
    I believe everyone has a purpose and everyone should follow their
    dream and passion and I am so grateful for that … there are so many things to be done
    and the best part is you don’t have to do it all, just the things you enjoy the rest of them are for the people who are enjoying and loving it.
    Thanks for sharing,
    Happy Easter weekend!
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  3. I believe everyone has a purpose too, Emi, although it may not be something that can be turned into an income. When it does, it’s magic!
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  4. Willena,

    I also love to write. And I loved playing my guitar and learning all the different possibilities of style, notes, keys. At one point I even started writing and playing my own songs. And then I stopped completely so that I could concentrate on completing my Ph.D. dissertation and all the responsibilities involved in that.

    I used to write poems all the time and somehow, with having so much else to do, I have not done that for a long time. A few years ago in NanoWrimo I gave myself the whole month of November to write my novel and the experience was absolutely invigorating. I wrote it just for the joy of allowing my imagination to flow and the words and scenes to develop themselves.

    Thanks for the reminder about how much I do enjoy writing, for self-expression and not just for “business” purposes.


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