What Will You Be Remembered For?

walking caneLast month our son Timothy graduated from Mount Carmel Bible College. It’s a small school with a family atmosphere. It wasn’t surprising, then, when a staff member who addressed the graduates gave a two-word description for each one. Some were obvious, like “Kim’s melody”, for everyone knew how she loved to sing, and would do so in meetings and ministry. But most of them were inside jokes that only the graduates and their own families knew. I waited, breathless, for what she’d say about our son.

“Timothy’s cane.”

On one of their trips during the school year, Timothy had a mishap, resulting in a badly sprained ankle. When he came home the following weekend, Ian took him to the drug store to get a cane to help him walk. For the next couple of weeks he hobbled around the school leaning on his cane. He took his teasing good-naturedly. He actually looked rather dapper when he wore his grey tweed cap. All he needed was a trench coat and he’d look like a young gentleman from decades past.

Timothy’s cane. It reminds me of another “graduation”… that of our eldest daughter at the end of first grade. It too was a small school… only 12 students from Gr. 1-12. They made a big deal of the end of the school year, with a program for parents, awards for good behaviour and academic achievement. They seemed to be scrambling for a unique award for our little girl, because what they came up with was an “art” award for spending her lunch hour one day drawing pictures on the wall of the washroom stall!

Our eldest daughter is remembered for something else too. She was in the last few weeks of training as a nursing assistant. She was doing her practicum at the local hospital. She left early one morning, only to return home an hour later, drop her jacket on the bed, and announce, “I have the chicken pox!” Two weeks later (to the day!!!), ALL SIX of her younger siblings broke out in spots. By that time she was feeling considerably better, but we had wall-to-wall makeshift beds in the living room for all the others, who either didn’t want to suffer alone, or who were too fatigued to make the climb up the stairs from the basement every time they needed anything. No one in our family will ever forget that experience.

Obviously, these were not the only things our kids were remembered for, but we remember these, because they stand out as being funny or dramatic.

I have several friends younger than I am who are great-grandmothers already. I’m 62, and I don’t even have grandchildren. Sometimes I panic as I wonder where the years went, and what I have to show for it. Then I think of our kids and what a great bunch they are — and that I still have a 15-year-old homeschooling son at home — and that every weekend one or both of our next youngest are here. No empty nest for us yet!

The time is still coming that my days will be my own. How will I spend those days? What do I want to be remembered for?

Food for thought…..

© Willena Flewelling


  1. mmm! I wonder how people will remember me? With positive thoughts I hope.
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  2. Two of my three have left home, one 3000k away. When they were all young and I was crazy busy I often longed for at least a little freedom and time to myself. My youngest has a disability and will always live at home. I worry for his future when I’m no longer here but I am grateful that I don’t have to worry about him leaving the nest.

    I suppose what we are remembered for will vary between family, friends, acquaintances and these days online contacts too.
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  3. Hi Willena,

    You have such a great question to think about – what will you be remembered for? That’s an intriguing question and people long to have a legacy for others to remember them for. I pray that I’m remembered for being a patient and loving mother and wife. That’s what really matters to me. Knowing that I’ve taken care of my family to the best of my ability.

    Thanks for sharing this!
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    • Patience is a virtue I need to develop better. When people hear I had 7 children and homeschooled them all (in our 22nd year!), they automatically think I have a lot of patience. But it’s an ongoing life lesson.

      Keeping that in your vision will help you to realize it, Lillian. I bet you’re already an awesome wife and mother!
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  4. Hi Willena,

    This is a question that has been worrying me for a few weeks now.

    Sadly my Mum died a few weeks ago, and when we put together her Eulogy I was just stunned at how much “good” she had done in her life, all without detracting from being a great Mum, wife and partner in my Dad’s business.

    It shamed me to feel I hadn’t amounted to much, so I’ve started training to be a Sighted Guide for people learning to get around with their new guide dogs.

    When I shared my worry with my Dad, he reminded that I’ve given 48 blood donations too – which was prompted when my Mum received some blood years ago and I felt the need to “pay back”. So if anyone else is feeling they won’t be remembered for much, blood donations are a good start too!

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    • I’ve read what you shared about your Mum, Joy, and I wouldn’t be surprised if she thought she hadn’t accomplished much either. Sometimes it takes someone like your Dad to remind you that you are already doing a lot more than you think you are. Blessings on your new venture as a Sighted Guide. 🙂
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  5. Hi, a very interesting question for me ” what will you be remembered for? There are so many things that crossed my mind. I want to be remembered as someone who is very supportive and a loving mother to my children.
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