Rabbit Trails and Time Capsules

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I don’t know how I do it. I’m checking emails, and two hours later I wake up to find myself lost on some website, having no clue how I got there, or why I’m even there.

One night I looked up a friend on Facebook, afraid I had missed her birthday. I knew within a few days of when it was, but not exactly, and it was important to me that I didn’t miss it.

She had posted a photo of her daughter, tagging it, and one of her daughter’s friends commented on it. The friend happens to have the same last name as my maiden name. I went to her profile to see if there are any connections with my family, among her friends. There weren’t. But one thing led to another, and I found quite a few of my cousins and their children and grandchildren – and spent the next couple of hours looking at their photos.


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Time Capsules

The only thing I don’t like about a time capsule is having to wait so long to open it and see what was in it. But when you’re busy living a full life, time has a way of flying by. Enter Facebook and suddenly you find yourself seeing your childhood friends and cousins you haven’t seen since high school. In my case, that means bypassing a whole generation, so now my friends are in their 60s. Without even knowing how many children they had, I’m looking at their nearly-grown GRANDchildren! I may regret the years we’ve missed, yet I feel so blessed that I have a way of seeing them now, even though we’re thousands of miles apart.

I haven’t seen any of my cousins on my father’s side of the family, in 40 years – and some as long as 45 years. It’s wonderful to see photos of them now. And I haven’t seen most of their children, much less their grandchildren. It was fun seeing them, and figuring out who belongs to whom, and how they are related to me, and to my children.

I was especially delighted to see the cousin who is the same age as I am. I’d looked for her before, and all I could find was her LinkedIn profile. I was amazed as I looked at her work profile, and her impressive list of accomplishments since high school! I tried contacting her there, but somehow we never managed to connect.

I think I know where I get the tendency not to change a whole lot through the years… none of my cousins have changed except to look a little older.

It’s amazing to see the family resemblance go down the line from my uncle, to my cousin, to his son, all the way down to his grandson. I remember when Daddy’s 3rd cousin came to visit us from Saskatchewan. We had never met before. But he said he could tell I was a Cummins because I had the Cummins brow. I thought it was strange he should be able to see any resemblance when we’re so distantly related. But it shouldn’t surprise me… there is a strong resemblance in my own family from my grandmother, to my father, to me, and to one of my daughters.

We live in an amazing time! Don’t you think so? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

© Willena Flewelling


  1. I love Facebook. Just last night I checked my “Other” messages and saw one from a woman who had taken dance lessons from my grandmother (my grandmother owned a dance studio!) she stated that she now owned a dance studio and was looking through ok’d photos and realized she had none of the woman who inspired her–my grandmother! I quickly responded, and am so thrilled to connect with her. The wonders of technology!

  2. Hey Willena, you make me remember my childhood. We live in an amazing time, I agree!
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  3. Interesting article im gonna send it off to Twitter
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  4. Hello Willena, OH Yes Indeed The internet is an AMAZING PLACE INDEED! If it wasnt for this we would never have met Right?

    As for FaceBook I Love It! I get pictures on my grandsons, nieces nephews and oh so many many more. It Is AMAZING!
    Great Share, Thank YOU & Have a Blessed Evening
    Chery :))
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    • Very true, Chery! And I’m glad I met you… you’ve enriched my life! Facebook is where I see my little sister’s girls grow up too. They just turned 8 and 6, and I only met them in real life last October. I wouldn’t see them at all if it weren’t for Facebook.
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  5. We often get the negative side of the story… the intrusion, loss of privacy and all the rest.

    You’ve pointed out the other side of the story though, Willena. Truly, for all the things we are uncomfortable about online, we are more than amazed by what we can accomplish and share with the technology, too.

    Like you, I’ve discovered some pretty amazing connections with my past on the internet. Many of these were long forgotten. It was quite an experience to have them suddenly surface.
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  6. Hi Willena,

    It’s great to read your post. I was busy with my projects, that’s the reason I was inactive a bit, specially reading & commenting was completely off.

    But Anyways, Thanks for the interesting & informative read. Keep up the good work and enjoy the holidays.

    A Very Happy New Year Willena! Cheers

    ~ Donna
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